There’s a strong consideration in the relationship that supports the saying “love your partner’s imperfection.” It may sound convincing, but it typically represents my situation in a different way. It seems like there’s something about me that feels so wrong. What if my imperfections can bring harm to the one I love? Am I still capable of considering those flaws?
My marriage goes to different stages, and as I continue to stay positive about everything, I am noticing that my personality is causing someone to feel stressed, anxious, and depressed. It’s not helping me, and I somehow think that it’s not contributing to my marriage at all.
I Easily Get Irritated Whenever He Doesn’t Listen To What I Say
As a wife, I admit I have tons of demands that I want my husband to follow. As much as possible, I want him to immediately consider the things I want him to do and prioritize them before anything else. It upsets me every time I ask him to do something and feel like he’s not taking my words seriously. My perfectionist personality is making him feel weak and useless. Sometimes, he admits to seeing me as a boss and not as a wife, and that is something.
Suzanne Phillips, PsyD., ABPP says that long-term married couples with similar traits also report less marital satisfaction than those with opposing traits. Sometimes when the world of demands steps out, partners either expect their partner to fill in or predict boredom and confinement with one person. The lack of satisfaction often reflects an inability to see self, partner, and life a little differently.”.
I Create Decisions And Make Sure To Execute Them
There’s a huge difference when it comes to decision making regarding our relationship. I always get to have the final say because I consider myself periodically on the right path. I am never wrong, and my husband seems to agree with that. However, I feel my man is turning out to be a servant and not a husband anymore. He doesn’t say anything so I think I’m making the right choices, but I don’t.
The phenomenon experienced by the husband is what we all know as “learned helplessness.” Courtney Ackerman, MSc, defines this as “a phenomenon observed in both humans and other animals when they have been conditioned to expect pain, suffering, or discomfort without a way to escape it,” and then “eventually, after enough conditioning, the animal will stop trying to avoid the pain at all—even if there is an opportunity to truly escape it.”
My Social Skills Are Becoming An Issue
I am a friendly person, and as much as possible, I want to connect to a lot of people. I am talkative, and I believe I can comfortably create a bond with others due to my honest personality. However, my husband seems to see it differently. He thinks that I am too open about my life to others and it causes us to have different opinions about what others think. I am a vocal person, and I answer people’s questions honestly, and he pretty much doesn’t seem to like it.
I’m Unpredictable When It Comes To What I Want
Part of my flaws is irrational thinking. I sometimes see things in a different perspective which causes me to exaggerate reactions. I excuse myself for being unreasonable and try to cover it up by merely convincing my husband that I need attention out of nowhere. He thinks that’s normal. However, I feel like he’s only trying to be nice because he mainly tells me things I want to hear.
“Lying and self-deception is rampant in romantic relationships,“ Dr. Cortney S. Warren, PhD., ABPP., admits.
My personality is something that makes me different from anybody else. However, when it comes to my relationship, I can see that those imperfections are trying to ruin my marriage drastically. Though I don’t hear any complaints from my husband, I am perfectly sure that there’s something wrong.